Women and Age

Today I heard a BBC radio broadcast about women and age.Two women were featured one a 22 year old and the other a 74 year old. Both lived in the USA. I was interested to hear how they responded the to the questions they were asked. The older woman was a teacher at well known university. The young woman was starting out on her life voyage.

One of the questions was about how women are considered to be “dust ” once they hit 60. The 74 year old said she had never accepted this idea and never considered herself to be dust and what did that idea mean since she had only retired at the age of 72. Was she dust for 12 years? She thought not.

The younger woman said she didn’t accept the “dust” idea either. It became clear to me that neither of these women were weak personalities. Both were strong women who were not going to be sidelined.

The show wrapped up with the older woman being asked what she would say to young women today. She said that they should never let anyone push them aside or take away their right to make their own decisions. Well ,in my opinion, that is the best possible advice to give.

I have also heard that when women age they become “invisible”. I always thought that was just in the minds’ eye of the opposite sex. So that was not something that I was going to loose any sleep over.

Now that I am in my 74th year of life I do look in the mirror and see grey hair and wrinkly skin. I think I have earned every wrinkle. I have had two children and some of those wrinkles belong to them. As for the grey hair…..I went through a brief period when my hairdresser talked me into getting my hair colored. During that phase I would look in the mirror and wonder who that person was. So I buzz cut my hair and let it grow out. I have also never been tempted to have any wrinkle reducing plastic surgery. I’ve had enough surgery without that. I have nothing against people who do choose that route . I think it’s fine. It is just not for me.

So those are my thoughts on Women and Age. Today President Biden has declared he will run again for a second term. The main topic seems to be how old he is. I have to wonder if he was a woman would he have been elected at all. There are other countries who have had women as Presidents and Prime Ministers and they have not been the youngest of women,

Golda Meir Prime Minister of Israel 1969-1974

Indira Ghandi Prime Minister of India 1966-1977 and 1980 till her assassination in 1984.

Margaret Thatcher Prime Minister of the United Kingdom 1979- 1990

None of these women were “dust” nor were they invisible .

I don’t think you have to be a political leader of a nation to get along in the world as an older women. I think you can still command respect and inspire others if you are true to yourself.

This post is a departure from my usual posts but the BBC program got me thinking about Women and Age and Ageism. I shall return to my normal posts next post.


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25 responses to “Women and Age”

  1. Terri Webster Schrandt Avatar

    I’ve also heard of the word invisible being related to women over 60. I believe attitude, friendliness and strength in a woman go along way in keeping us relevant. I read a hilarious book “Excuse Me While I Disappear,”by Lori Notaro. You would like it. I’m 63, I’m 5’8, my shoulder length strawberry blonde hair is more red than gray and I’m still daring it to turn white. 😁 I’m glad you wrote this, Anne. Most bloggers are women and we need to change the narrative!

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Good point that many bloggers are women and we can change the view with our words in the blogosphere.

      1. Terri Webster Schrandt Avatar

        I have met many bloggers in person, mostly 50+. A delightful group for sure and worth getting to know better.

  2. Emma Cownie Avatar

    Excellent post – There were a several of older women on my degree course way back in the late 80s. One of them was in her 70s. The other two were probably younger than I am now but the seemed pretty old to me as an 19 year old. One was very serious and went on to do a PhD and the other was was more fun (and lacking in confidence, which endeared us to us). Now I am in my 50s I don’t feel invisible but I am aware that the younger people in my sewing class probably didn’t know how to relate to me, in the same way I didn’t really know how to relate to the mature students at my university.

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Thank you for sharing your experiences with older adults . I had only contemporaries in university. Now I am the oldest person at the barn and I’ve got used to that.

  3. Pepper Avatar

    What a well written post and I couldn’t agree with you more. 😊👏

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Thank you I appreciate your comment!

  4. Michele Lee Avatar

    Thank you very much for this interesting content, Anne. The subject matter resonates strongly with me, and one I would like to explore more in my writing. 🙏🏻

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      I look forward to seeing your thoughts on this topic in your blog posts.

      1. Michele Lee Avatar

        Your interest means a lot to me. Thank you. 🙏🏻

  5. babsje Avatar

    Very good post! Me and aging? I’m aiming for those gorgeous Georgia O’Keefe wrinkles!

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Good for you!

  6. Cee Neuner Avatar

    Never heard the term “dust” referred to women, must be an English thing rather than US. I don’t speak up often, but when I do, I’m strong and clear in my intentions. I’m 62 and won’t be “dust” that’s for sure. I loved your post.

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Thanks Cee.

  7. Robert Parker Avatar

    A solid post, Anne. I don’t think you’re in any danger of invisibility! P.S. Golda Meir was born in Kyiv but grew up in Milwaukee. After surviving the winters here, nothing ever scared her!

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Haha! Well tough winters can make or break you!

  8. Janne Rumbough Avatar
    Janne Rumbough

    Thank you it was a great blog ,
    I have grey hair and earned my wrinkles ♥️ can still ride young horses at 79 , l am not dust 😂

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      You are my inspiration Janne! And you are definitely NOT dust!

  9. J.W.S. Avatar

    This is a splendid discussion. The issue of age related stereotypes is all too common. Your commend of subject and of your life is a real inspiration.

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      Thank you.💕

  10. Neal Saye Avatar

    Oh Anne, thank you for this post. Age brings wisdom and lived experience.

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      I agree thank you Neal

  11. Dawn M. Miller Avatar

    I never heard the term dust but I have heard “invisible”, and as a single older woman I have definitely experienced that. Sometimes I speak up and sometimes I just roll with it. Another plus for being older (for me at least) is I don’t get riled up easily.

  12. Paula Light Avatar

    Great post, Anne! My suspicion is that the women who complain of feeling “invisible” when they’re older were once “hot” and had loads of male attention. I never had that at 22, so nothing has changed for me at 62. I guess I’m lucky I was never gorgeous!

    As far as Biden (and the other guy), I do think 75+ is too old to be POTUS. I think some of the older congresspeople should have retired years ago too. Give the younger generations a chance to be heard for pete’s sake. No wonder the 18-30 year olds are meh on voting when they see all these folks they can’t relate to.

    I will be voting for Biden though, as the Republican alternatives are too horrible 😞

    1. anne leueen Avatar

      I agree with your point of view

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