Haters Anonymous

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“Hi, my name is Blah D. Blah and I’m a Hater.”

“Hi Blah D. Welcome to Haters Anonymous.” 

Well, I very much doubt that there are any 12 Step programs for haters. I doubt haters think they have any kind of addiction problem and certainly would not be ready to say they were powerless over hating or that it had made their lives unmanageable. But haters can certainly affect the lives of others. Haters have upset people, caused professionals’ reputations to be damaged and at worst have bullied and traumatized some people to the point where they have taken their own lives. 

Haters have a field day in the realm of social media. They can be found in all areas; groups for people suffering with mental illness, people with children with disabilities, people with addictions, people with horses and people who are just trying to get on and lead a decent life. Anyone, anywhere, can be a victim of haters. Haters do not hold back from attacking other haters either, which is a sort of equalizing factor I suppose.

It is easy to say: “haters gonna hate, just let it go.” It’s not so easy to do it when you are on the receiving end of the hating.

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Why do haters hate? Why do they react the way they do? Do they have no empathy? Do they have no respect?  Where does this hate come from? I think we would like to believe that in 2017 we are in a civilized world even though the daily news would tell us otherwise. We would like to believe that we are striving for a better world. Are we better? Have we made progress?

Let’s look at ancient Rome. The entertainment at the Coliseum in Rome might be a good place to start.  A good afternoon’s entertainment of that time would be to watch some Christians be eaten alive by starving wild animals. Or to watch gladiators hack each other to pieces. Thumbs up…life! Thumbs down…death!

 

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What about the England of the Tudors?  If you were one of Henry the 8th’s wives you could lose your head in the relative privacy of the Tower of London witnessed by an invited group of members of the Court and the government.  More common criminals or traitors would be publicly hung, drawn and quartered before howling mobs in a public square. This grisly spectacle involved seeing a person hung until almost dead, then be cut down and stretched out while his innards were cut out of him and tossed onto burning coals. All part of an afternoon’s entertainment.  Execution-Duke-of-Northumberland-1553

Were the crowds in the Coliseum haters? Were the crowds in Tudor England, yelling at the executions, haters? Have we lost those venues for haters and now they have to go to the internet? I’m just asking.

Or are the majority of haters people who believe they know better and know more than the rest of us? Do they feel compelled to tell us of the errors of our ways while they have the anonymity of the internet, and the shield of the computer screen?

Haters are all about the “thumbs down” approach to life. I am a “thumbs up” person and I have to believe the majority of people are like me. I’m a “liker”.

What about you?

 

31 Comments Add yours

  1. Haters, the most unhappy with themselves, of all people.

    I try to see beauty in small, Zenlike things. Getting better each year. Who has time to spread hate then…

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Beauty in small things….wonderful approach to life Elinor! Thank you for this comment.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. athling2001 says:

    If only there was less hate in the world.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Elizabeth (HorseLover4Ever) says:

    Just as I like to be loved and liked by people, I try to give the same love back to everyone. ❤ I'd call myself a lover as well…and I would DEFINITELY say you're a lover, Anne!!! 🙂 Definitely.

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Thank you Elizabeth! Let’s keep it up.

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      1. Elizabeth (HorseLover4Ever) says:

        YES!!!!! 😀

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  4. Avery says:

    I am a lover and am set on spreading love around and shining light on the positive! It is a shame in this ‘social media’ day and age. If only we could ignore them and they would go away.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      I knew you were a lover Avery. You send that message in all your posts. Thank you.

      Liked by 2 people

  5. sandyjwhite says:

    The world is in dire need of kindness. I am for supporting people, not tearing
    them down.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      Yes! Thank you for this positive comment.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. sandyjwhite says:

        You are welcome, Anne.

        Liked by 2 people

  6. Alli Farkas says:

    How interesting that this post comes up after I spent way too much time yesterday following a thread on COTH about a (Canadian!) gal who has set up a dressage website and several social media accounts and personally attacks/blocks/deletes comments from people who disagree with her while professing to hate haters…I personally think she is mentally ill, but she’s just one person so that doesn’t explain the crowd mentality.

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    1. anne leueen says:

      The crowd mentality kicks in when people “like” and “follow” the type of person you are describing. Such people have tens of thousands of “followers” and “likes” . The person you are describing is not alone the equestrian world has many . I have thought about the topic for some time and something that happened recently made me decide it was time to speak up. Thank you for your comment!

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  7. This is a deep question. I am definitely a lover not a hater. I think some of the issues that happen today is that people are so absorbed with Self. So they can’t empathize or be compassionate to others.

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    1. anne leueen says:

      You raise a very good point Fearless. They cannot be empathetic of compassionate because it is all about them. Thanks for this comment.

      Liked by 2 people

  8. I’m a lover…I was bullied when I was younger, I don’t take no crap anymore!!! The song Shake it Off by Taylor Swift is coming to mind lol

    Liked by 3 people

  9. geekkat says:

    I am definitely a liker and lover 😁

    Liked by 2 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      Yes! Welcome to the bright side!

      Liked by 2 people

  10. dray0308 says:

    Reblogged this on Dream Big, Dream Often and commented:
    Horse Addict!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      Thank you. This is a topic I felt compelled to speak out about so I appreciate the re-blog.

      Liked by 2 people

      1. dray0308 says:

        You are most welcome!

        Liked by 1 person

  11. I believe in being a loving and kind human☺

    Liked by 2 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      Thank you good to know you are on the side of kindness and love.

      Liked by 2 people

  12. Thought provoking post, thank you so much for sharing ma’am

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  13. Storyteller says:

    I’m a Lover, spread the love and stay blessed!
    xx Storyteller 🙂

    Liked by 4 people

    1. anne leueen says:

      Yes! Thank you for aligning with the bright side!

      Liked by 2 people

      1. Storyteller says:

        ur welcome 🙂

        Liked by 2 people

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