Setting goals? New Years Resolutions? What do you need to know?

The other day I heard Dolly Parton’s song “Hard Candy Christmas.” The lyrics went like this.

Hey, maybe I’ll dye my hair
Maybe I’ll move somewhere
Maybe I’ll get a car
Maybe I’ll drive so far
They’ll all lose track
Me, I’ll bounce right back
Maybe I’ll sleep real late
Maybe I’ll lose some weight
Maybe I’ll clear my junk
Maybe I’ll just get drunk on apple wine

This is the season of New Years Resolutions and setting goals. Many go through a process similar to Dolly Parton in her song. But rest assured Dolly Parton has not lived a single minute of her life with a random and sketchy process to setting her goals.

What do you need to know to set goals for the new year? I believe we must know ourselves. We must set our own goals not the goals suggested by others or the goals we are supposed to set for ourselves. Goals, short term, medium term and long term are the steps to achieving our dreams. But they must be our dreams. We must know who we are.

When Chris Hatfield was a kid he watched the moon landing and decided he would be an astronaut. That is a fine goal. But Hatfield was Canadian and Canada had no space program. So how could he become an astronaut? He set about preparing for his future. He said in his autobiography that he believes it is important to “sweat the small stuff.” And that is just what he did . He started by making sure he did well in all the subjects in school that could be necessary for being accepted into an astronaut program. . And he did it. He became an astronaut! He knew who he was. He knew that for him the small stuff mattered and taking a ‘flying on the seat of his pants’ attitude would not work for him. It might work for someone else but he knew it would not work for him.

I always sweat the small stuff. Maybe that is why I am happy in the discipline of dressage. It is all about the small stuff. The details. I know myself well enough to know that and I take it into consideration when setting goals for myself. How much small stuff will there be? Will I be able to deal with it? I have to know myself to answer those questions.

So before setting goals or resolutions take the time to be really honest with yourself. Here is some of the wisdom of Charlie Mackesy.

Happy New Year everyone!

31 Comments Add yours

  1. Great post! Agree! I have the same perspective as you on this. I have written an article recently about this titled ‘Why New Year Resolutions are Doomed to Fail’ – ,’https://authorjoannereed.net/new-years-resolutions/ – Feel free to check it out!

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  2. Nice post. A good reminder that the little things we tend to overlook matter. I have a similar post:
    http://mercymime.co.uk/new-years-resolution-tips-and-tricks-to-set-yourself-up-for-success/

    Thank you for the advice x.

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Thank you and best wishes for 2020 to you as well.

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      1. kunstkitchen says:

        Thank you! I wish I could be at the horse show. I look forward to your photos.

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  3. Irene says:

    Gotta tell you! Saw this post late last night and decided I was too tired to read it. So glad I waited until this morning because it is too good to just skim through and not think about. Thank you! 😊

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Thank you Irene! That is a wonderful compliment and I am glad you found something of use in the post.

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  4. I am a believer in the small staff myself, but I also accept that other people prefer making big steps.
    Happy New Year to your family!

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Happy New Year to you to Viola!

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  5. Thank you very much for this insightful and interesting post! And a very happy new year to you! I have recently published an article on my blog about new year’s resolutions and my different perspective on the importance of resolutions daily. If you have time, it would be great if you could check out my post as I would be interested to hear your thoughts! Thanks πŸ™‚

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Happy New Year to you too Tiffany!

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  6. Robyn says:

    Oh, I love this – so true. I try not to sweat the small stuff in my life, but when it comes to wanted change you really do need to pay attention to all those details. Love the picture too. Hope you have a wonderful, happy and healthy 2020!!

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Best wishes for 2020 for you and your family. My hat is off to you dealing with the challenges you have in your family life. So I would agree that an attitude of not sweating the small stuff seems to be working well for you. Bravo!

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  7. aghisla says:

    Your words resonate with me. The small stuff is not small as it seems, it’s a tiny but important piece of the puzzle. Thank you for your inspiring post!

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    1. anne leueen says:

      You are most welcome. I’m glad you found something of interest in the post and thanks for taking the time to comment.

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  8. I’m also one to sweat the small stuff.
    All the best to you for 2020!
    Cheers, Amy

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Thanks Amy! And best wishes for 2020 to you as well.

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  9. So very true!
    Wish you and your loved ones a wonderful new year! πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠ

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    1. anne leueen says:

      And best wishes for 2020 to you and your family Ribana!

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  10. Emma Cownie says:

    Yes, I can see dressage is all about sweating the small stuff (and being an astronaut), for me that approach did not work in teaching as it overwhelmed me in the end. Now, I just worry about the detail in a painting or making sure I pack my paintings securely. Happy New Year to you Leueen!

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Happy New Year to you too Emma. Sweating the small stuff is not for everybody! Thanks for commenting and giving that other side to this post some verification.

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  11. Any day is good to start a resolution. The whole point is,” do we achieve what we aim for”.
    Wishing you a very Happy New Year AnneπŸŽŠπŸŽ‰βœ¨

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Happy New Year to you too Deeksha!🌷

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  12. Mama Duck says:

    A great post with thoughtful advice for the new year. Happy 2020 to you and yours!πŸŽ‰

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    1. anne leueen says:

      Happy New Year to you and your family. Thanks for leaving this comment!😊

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  13. I never make any. I just pray for hubby.

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    1. anne leueen says:

      I am a believer in the power of prayer although I am not religious.

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